You have fallen in love again and joined your families, but now you need the best parenting plan for your newly blended family. Blended families are much more the norm now than ever before, and we have some great tips to help make them more manageable and happier than ever. Whether you are bringing children from both sides together, or just children from one spouse into a new home these tips will help make this transition easier.
The Best Parenting Plan For Blended Families
Never bad mouth the other parent in front of the children. There are always bad feelings with divorce, but the best parenting plan you can make involves keeping your feelings to yourself and focusing on the children. This means you don’t bad mouth the other parent in front of the children, no matter how frustrated you may be. Vent to your friends, your new spouse or even your neighbor but not in front of the kids. The saying often says you may have divorced the parent but your children didn’t. Remember this every time you want to say something bad.
Sometimes, the other parent really is in a place that isn’t good for your kids to be around. When this is the case, you can handle the situation delicately by talking about how sometimes we make bad decisions but aren’t bad people. No matter what your opinion of the other person is, you need to allow your child to form their own opinions. Keep them safe, but let them love their other parent without your poor thoughts involved.
Agree on discipline techniques with all parents involved. Discipline is one of the hardest things to navigate with blended families. If possible, a sit down with all parents involved is a wise decision. This parenting plan is vital to make sure no child is resentful and no other parent is angry. Most step-parents are usually involved lightly in disciplinary measures, but the custodial parent may involve them more depending on needs. A good plan is a necessity to keep the peace not only with the kids but also with the other parents.
Give the children space and time to adjust. Even if you are all used to each other through the dating and engagement process, it can take time for kids to adjust. Don’t push any child to be okay right away. Give them time, space and even the option to talk to someone like a counselor throughout the process. This can give them an outlet without feeling like they will hurt someone’s feelings that they love.
Don’t expect perfection. The best parenting plan revolves around understanding things are not perfect. You will have adjustments, as well as your kids. That means there will be snippy words, bad attitudes, tears and probably some anger. Focusing more on how to handle the emotional strain united with your new spouse is the best choice you can make. Don’t expect everything to run smoothly all the time.
Great Parenting Books:
- How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
- Scream Free Parenting
- Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide
This parenting plan for blended families is all about making sure your children know that you love them and want only the best for them. Working together with your children and new spouse to create a loving home will make this plan totally successful.