Having positive parenting solutions for teen rebellion can make or break the relationship you keep with your teenager. Much like the younger years, teens do not come with an instruction manual. It’s all a matter of trial an error. If you are dealing with teen rebellion, try our positive parenting solutions to work on your relationship with your teenager.
Positive Parenting Solutions For Teen Rebellion
Write a letter – If you are struggling with something on your mind and can’t find the words to express yourself to someone (like your kids, husband or other family members), try writing them a letter. You don’t here to read it out loud to them, but a letter can help break the ice and start the conversation between everyone involved.
Sit down and listen to them – Let your teen talk to you and tell you what is bothering them or causing them to rebel in the way they are. Put your phone down and focus on them. Give them 100% of your attention.
Spend the day one on one with them and give them your undivided attention – Schedule at least one day every few weeks to spend the entire day doing stuff they want to do. My parents used to do this with me when I was growing up. They called it “Kristi’s Day” and I got to choose what we did and where we went all day. Some of the best memories I have come from these days spent solely with my parents focusing on what I wanted or needed at the time.
Get to know their friends – The friends your teens keep can have a significant impact on their attitude. By getting to know their friends, you can see if the friends are a positive impact on their lives. If you notice that their friends aren’t a positive impact, talk to your teen about their friendship with these friends and let them know what you are seeing. By talking to them about the negative impact these friends are having on their lives, you may be able to let them see this too. It doesn’t always work, but giving them an outside perspective of their friends may help them to realize it too. I would recommend that you choose your words wisely when discussing their friendship because it could ultimately cause more problems and lead them down the path towards more drastic teen rebellion.
Focus on your family – It’s easy to look online and see so many of our friends and family that “seem” to have it all together. The problem is, we all have to remember that each of our families is unique in their own way. We also have to remember that our friends and family are only letting us see one side of their lives. It’s not always peaches and cream in every household.
At the end of the day, teens are simply looking for someone to listen to them. Teen rebellion is simply a way that they are trying to get your attention. When we realize that our time to them means more than anything, there should be a drastic change in their behavior.